I want a relationship, not out of love or passion, but out of fear of the future. Is this selfish?

theguardian.comPublished: 5/16/2025

Summary

Eleanor reflects on her desire for companionship after feeling isolated and witnessing her father's illness. She argues that seeking a relationship isn't inherently abnormal; it’s about building something together rather than relying solely on another person. Eleanor emphasizes mutual commitment and shared care as key aspects of long-term love, challenging the idea that connection is negative. She believes this desire for companionship could be common and may represent a new preference developed from her emotional experience.