I worry that I don’t ‘get’ romance and am disappointing my husband

My long-term marriage has been incredibly fulfilling despite my lack of romantic experiences. My husband expresses affection openly, but I feel disconnected from his emotions when trying to be romantic. My psychotherapist asked if later life pressures her to "get it right" or if an illness or event is needed. She also questioned how we define romance, highlighting that gestures and acts of care can be deeply romantic. **Summary:** In a long-term marriage, focusing on communication as a key to intimacy can reveal hidden romantic gestures. Understanding each other's definitions of romance may deepen your connection without needing to force romantic displays.