What’s worse than being ghosted? Dating a ‘submariner’

theguardian.comPublished: 6/3/2025

Summary

Submarinating refers to individuals who disappear after a breakup and return later, often due to insecurity or boredom rather than genuine interest in rekindling the relationship. This behavior is distinct from ghosting, as those returning may not care about the person but seek attention to fill emotional voids. To avoid dealing with such situations, it’s wise to approach submariners with empathy and discernment, avoiding overly vague communication styles like "long time no speak." Instead, focus on genuine connection and transparency.