I’ve realised I am too contrarian. How can I change this?

I recognise myself to be very contrarian, to the point of reacting in this fashion in every situation, regardless of what it is. Eleanor says: It sounds as though there’s a gap between what you want to do and what you do. You can see you’re being contrarian, you want to change that, but that’s not enough to mean things actually change. Can you think of particular people affected by this habit; ways their lives would be better without it? Last, like all habits we want to change or virtues we want to cultivate, it might help to start very concrete and very small.